Each Friday night, about thirty people, myself included, gather to share a meal together and what may be on our hearts from the current week. "Addiction and recovery" is the tagline for this group and mostly relates to drugs and alcohol but what I've learned in attending is that to some degree or another, we're all either addicted and/or recovering from something. Serving as co-leader of this amazing group of honest and transparent people, I had the pleasure of leading a few weeks ago and took on the topic of "grief in addiction".
The question was asked, "Was there a particular loss prior to your struggle with addiction?" Like most Friday nights, the person to my left answered first and most everyone spoke until we ended with the person to my right. While maybe only two said they couldn't recall any grief prior to their first taste of drugs or alcohol, most mentioned the death of a loved one, a difficult relationship or one of more than forty loss experiences. Immediately following the meeting, those who didn't speak offered to share with me in private they couldn't speak through recalling their pain.